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It's normal not to be happy all the time

26 June 2024

Despite more awareness of mental health, people can still imagine there's something wrong with them if they're not happy. In fact, it's quite normal not to be 'happy' due to the nature of happiness and the complexity of being human.

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The contract between therapist and client

25 May 2024

At the start of therapy, the client and therapist do something called ‘contracting', which is about the ‘terms and conditions' of therapy. The contract creates a structure for the therapy. Three key aspects of the contract are confidentiality, timing and payments.

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Why trainee therapists have therapy

29 April 2024

Trainee therapists can benefit greatly from being in long-term therapy. It a chance to experience what your clients will experience. And, by exploring your issues, feelings and biases, you will be better equipped to deal with this same material in your clients.

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We have one self, but many parts

28 March 2024

It's normal in life to feel in ‘two minds' about something. One way of making sense of this is the idea that the self is made up of different parts, rather than being one single and consistent thing. In a way, we have different personalities for different occasions.

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Our childhood affects who we are as adults

6 February 2024

As children, we come to realise what is acceptable and unacceptable to our parents. So, in order to win their approval, we start to edit ourselves. This shapes our personality and underpins who we become as adults.

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Getting to know ourselves

24 January 2024

Counselling can help release repressed feelings and beliefs. When these parts are uncovered, we can start to accept them and make sense of them. We become more self-aware and freer to make choices. 

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Therapy is a space for deep exploration

1 December 2023

In one sense, there are no rules in therapy: the client can talk about whatever they want. But from another perspective, there are a few specific rules that are designed to create framework for deep exploration.

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Counselling is an unusual type of conversation

1 November 2023

For many people, having someone really try to understand you is a new experience. When we feel heard and understood, life starts to feel different.

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Listening and being listened to

1 October 2023

There are many types of counselling, but one thing is central to them all: the act of attentive listening. Some people have such little experience of being listened to that when it happens it can feel strange, even uncomfortable. 

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